Ladies, we need to stop tearing each other down and start empowering one another

I covered something similar in a blog post not that long ago. In that piece I discussed how in this digital age, we need to practise self love more often because of the rise in cruel and harmful comments across social media.

Never has it been so true.

Only recently one of my followers over on Instagram dropped me a message with an alarming story. She said that a recent fitness video she had posted online, had received several negative comments about the way she looked and about her form.

Now I appreciate that when you’re putting fitness videos on platforms like Instagram, your form needs to be on point, or really your sending the wrong message about how to perform such moves, but as for these comments go, they were totally unnecessary.

We live in such a cruel world already where women are still being mistreated, abused, assaulted and discriminated. So many women are being told daily that they’re not pretty enough, not smart enough…not good enough. And yet, despite all of this, there are still women out there who continue to turn against one another.

As women we have to go through so many things in life that men will never have to deal with, (please don’t worry this won’t turn into a men bashing post!). From the pain of giving birth and periods to the plethora of crazy emotions we go through.

We have it tough enough, so why do other women make it more difficult for each other?

You only have to scroll through social media, find an inspiring woman’s post and check the comments to find the negativity.

If a girl posts a photo with no make-up on then she’s automatically thought to be too perfect, or arrogant because she looks so good having made no effort. Or if someone posts a gym picture she’s conceited or think’s she’s better than the rest of us.

Why would ladies who post these comments want to see you fail rather than succeed???

The sad truth is that amongst us women, there’s far too much jealousy, too much criticism and not enough encouragement, love and support.

I’m not saying that as a woman I’m perfect. I’ve said things in the past to other women that I regret deeply. We have all at some point been guilty of judging another woman or feeling insanely jealous of them.

You want the honest truth? There will ALWAYS be other women out there that are prettier, taller, skinnier, curvier, smarter, fitter or have other things we don’t possess, but at the end of the day we are all women, and we need to stand together.

We are all beautiful in our on way and smart in our own rights. We need to learn to recognise not only the beauty in others (inside and out), but also the beauty within ourselves.

If we stop dragging each other down, we can help one another do better, be better, work hard and inspire even more women and young girls. As cliché as it sounds, we have the power to do so.

To all the women who are reading this, remember you are worthy and you are enough – know that there are more women standing behind you and supporting you than you realise.

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”

Maya Angelou


  1. Carrie x
    February 13, 2019 / 11:03 am

    Love this! xxxx

    • sophiieschoice
      February 14, 2019 / 4:33 pm

      Thank you! Xxx

  2. February 21, 2019 / 11:08 am

    This is AWESOME! And so true. We girls have gota stick together. xx

    • sophiieschoice
      February 21, 2019 / 11:15 am

      Hell yes we do hun Xx

  3. The Amy Tales
    February 21, 2019 / 10:19 pm

    I love this post so much. You really hit the nail on the head. Us women do have it pretty tough and we go through so much together that we should be lifting each other other for putting ourselves out there or our little achievement rather than putting each other down. Social media has had such an impact of the way people across the spectrum are treated especially women and the sad thing is, we do the exact thing we hate to others. Usually its down to jealousy. Its so sad but so true.
    I couldn’t agree with your post more. So glad you highlighted the issue. Here is to girl power and loving our sisters.
    Thank you for sharing hun 🙂

    • sophiieschoice
      February 25, 2019 / 10:54 am

      Here’s to girl power! I’m glad you enjoyed the post lovely! X

  4. March 13, 2019 / 10:16 pm

    Too true, we all need to stick together. I don’t get when people constantly tear others down unnecessarily, it’s pointless and mean. But you gotta keep your head high and above the haters! xx

    • sophiieschoice
      March 14, 2019 / 4:12 pm

      Exactly hun! You’re so right! Xx

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