Through school, work and actually even up until just last year, I found myself stretched in all directions trying to please and impress friends, family, employers and even acquaintances.
Each person in every dimension of my life had a different view of not only who I should be, but who someone like me should be.
At school I was always very unsure of who I was and where I stood in the world, I was in a group of friends who did drama, another group who were pretty brainy and for the most part, kept myself to myself.
When I was in my teens, social media was taking off, so I popped myself on Facebook and began to share my life. This in itself brought with it critique from even some of my close friends, questioning whether I was self absorbed or trying to turn myself into someone new.
In reality, it was spurred by my lack of self-confidence and need to find my voice.
In the last couple of years or so I’ve found more confidence than I could imagine with the help of James and in the work I’m doing with my blog. I’ve realised that I am actually stronger and braver than I’d ever considered and in turn, have become comfortable in myself not by ‘searching’ for it, but by not just accepting who I am and where I’m at, but feeling proud of it.
I came to realise that my life didn’t come about by accident and the place I am right now is something I’ve actively and consciously endeavoured to.
This is something that I hope all women and young girls can find, and I wish all women would support others in their choices rather than scrutinise. I’ve been fortunate to be able to filter my friendship group to a place where everyone I have in my life now, I know would die for me and will support me through any and every choice.
The sort of girls (and guys) who will big up your life, comment with supportive emojis on your Instagram pictures and who will jump the car to your house when things get bad.
Unfortunately we live in a world where social media is such a big aspect of our lives and whether you like it or not, it can ruin people’s self confidence in a split second. Being nice and kind takes so much less energy than being horrible and cruel, and it’s something we need to practise as humans more often.
Practising self love has never been as important than it is now.
For the love of god, grab your friend and tell them they’re beautiful, tap the woman in front of you in the supermarket and tell them you like their jacket, and learn to love yourself and be confident in the life you’ve chosen.