Moving into your first home together

I’m not going to write about this and try and sugar coat the subject. Moving into your first home together isn’t easy. Whether you’re buying or renting you will come up against obstacles, ones you never thought you would when you lived apart. You find out things about your other half that may surprise you. So grab a coffee because here it is, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Moving into your first home together

You can’t hide the not-so-sexy but totally-essential things

Yes I know. When you first move in together, you want to keep the romance in your relationship alive and hide all of these things. Non man-friendly products and granny pants will seem like the kinds of things that you will want to lock away in a guy-proof cupboard. The fact is that you can’t. Trust me when I say I tried! No matter how far back you push them, he will go through the cupboards to find his stuff. I mean, they are his cupboards too! If your relationship is a good one and a mature enough one, he’ll be completely fine with it all. I don’t mean walk around in your granny pants on and wax your legs on the dining room table but wearing a facemask? Go for it! The thing is, at some point he’ll see something you never thought he would, but he will still love you no matter what.

You will realise how much stuff you both actually own

Now this is one thing that shocked me. How much stuff we both actually owned. It was a real eye opener! My other half had come from having his own home and I, from my parents, so there was a bit of a difference in the amount. Saying that, even I was shocked with how much I had managed to accumulate living at my Mum and Dad’s! There were clothes for clothes, enough kitchen items to sink a ship and so many beauty products. For me this seemed like the perfect opportunity to have a declutter. I really can’t recommend it enough. When you move in together, remember that over time, you will both as a couple, collect even more stuff. So start off on the right foot and give yourselves room to grow. Stay neat and tidy and please, buy some storage. Even if it’s plastic boxes for under the bed or storage boxes for your attic, however you do it, just do it! It will help.

Try not to sweat the small stuff

He always puts the cushions the wrong way on the bed. He squeezes the toothpaste at the top not the bottom. His wet towel is left on the floor to “dry”. Who cares. Honestly. The small stuff is the stuff that doesn’t matter at the end of it all. You can always rearrange the cushions. You won’t self-combust if you have to redo the toothpaste the way you like it. That wet towel? Leave it on the floor so it’s nice and cold and wet when he comes to use it again? I’m only joking! But seriously, just hang it up. It takes two seconds of your time and lets face it, he’ll either learn one day or he won’t. I’m sure there are things you do that annoy him too! Make sure you keep an eye on all the things that are important in your lives. These things aren’t deal breakers and are not worth fighting over.

Continue to grow as a couple. Keep your sex life, passion is key!

Remember you’re in a relationship still and not just roommates. Don’t fall into the trap of getting too comfortable and losing any spark and romance you once had. Plan date nights, go to the cinema and if you’re lucky like us, try out your local pub! No matter how long you’ve lived together you must always put effort in. Think of new ways to spice things up. Go get ready for your date that little bit earlier and slip into something sexy, it will give him a surprise and something to look forward to when you get back from dinner. You have to try and find new ways to create mystery when you have less privacy. Also, let each other have guys nights and girls nights. It is still so important to have your own life and to do your own things with your friends. You will both find a new appreciation for them, and trust me, the other one will still be there when you get home.

The good, the bad and the sickness bugs

You’re really going to get to know each other really well. When you lived apart, you will have taken time away from each other when you weren’t well. You can’t do this now, no matter how hard you try! Part of being a good partner in a relationship is looking after the other one when they’re not well. You do get used to it, I promise. They’ll be there to hold your hair when you’re throwing up, it’s all part of it. There’s also nowhere to run when you have a fight. Don’t go around slamming doors and making a meal out of it. All I can advise is to talk it out. One of the biggest things I’ve learnt is that it’s so much easier and less effort to actually sit and talk about it like adults. Work through things together. You are a team, you’re in this together! You’ve always got to love and respect the person you’re with and accommodate them and their feelings, and vice versa, or it just won’t work.

I think the general thought is that when you move in together that nothing will change, but it does. And so it should. If nothing changes, then I would worry! Even if it’s the smallest of changes such as feeling more love and trust, that in its self says a lot about your relationship. Moving in together is such a big step, enjoy it, work hard at it and most of all, don’t lose sight of why you did it in the first place. You love each other.

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12 Comments

  1. Jan 16, 2018 / 5:33 pm

    Some great tips! Ours was a little different when we moved in together. We were both in the military and coming straight from high school. We had absolutely nothing! So we had a blast buying all kinds of new things for our house! But living in a house with absolutely nothing and sleeping on a blow-up mattress definitely makes for some memories! 🙂

    • Jan 16, 2018 / 5:40 pm

      Aww that’s so sweet! Hopefully you’ve made loads of wonderful memories 🙂 but yes I can definitely imagine that you made some fab first memories doing that!

  2. Jan 17, 2018 / 12:49 am

    I wish I would have read this before my boyfriend moved in. We definately had to learn a few things the hard way haha. I think the best part is that we have more time together.

    • Jan 17, 2018 / 10:17 am

      Aww well I’m glad you got through things together! It’s a real eye opener isn’t it! I have to agree with you, the time you get to spend together when you live together is great 🙂

  3. Jan 17, 2018 / 3:08 pm

    I love this post so much! Myself and my partner don’t actually have our own place yet but he lives at my parents house with me (I literally can’t wait for our own space). I’ve given up on trying to hide things like granny pants, and this week he’s seen me at my best with the flu throwing up all over the place! I think the thing is that if someone really loves you then they won’t care that your ill or wearing granny pants 💕

    • Jan 17, 2018 / 4:16 pm

      Aww thank you! At least you’ve kind of experienced it beforehand so aren’t going in totally blind 🙂 I’m sure you’ll get your own place before you know it! That’s it though, if they love you, they’ll love you warts and all! Xx

  4. Jan 18, 2018 / 12:22 pm

    I love this post! And needed to read this today! Strange I know. Iv been dealing with similar issues with my partner and reading this made me realise they are normal. It’s not the end of the world and you have to compromise in a relationship to make it work. Thanks for writing such an honest yet positive post!

    • Jan 18, 2018 / 4:02 pm

      Aww thanks so much! I’m glad you guys have managed to get through what you’re going through 🙂 I’ve worked out it’s normal too! Relationships are so much about give and take and I’m glad my post helped 🙂 x

  5. Jan 19, 2018 / 11:04 am

    I get you! I built a morning routine too and in the beginning it was really hard to stick to it.

  6. Polly
    Jan 21, 2018 / 8:56 pm

    Thank you so much for this! I’m hoping to move in with my boyfriend this year and although we know each other so so well, it’s going to be a big step!

    Polly | http://www.pollymaisiexo.com

    • Jan 21, 2018 / 9:07 pm

      Good luck! I hope it goes well 🙂 it’s a big eye opener but so worth it 🙂 x

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