When does staying in become the new going out?

Since James and I have moved into our new home, staying in has definitely become the new going out! I honestly don’t think it’s 100% down to money either, but (at the moment anyway) we actually still like spending time with each other. Shock and awe I know! 😉

Millennials have the most debt of any group of university graduates, like, ever, with some never being able to get a job they trained for. At the same time, we were the first generation to all grow up with computers in our homes and no one knows their way around an iPhone and quirky new technology better than us.

According to some, because of this fact, it is said that a lot of millennials don’t actually know how to socialise and interact with people…I call bullsh*t. People of my age and as young as my brother, know how to socialise so well! My brother at 19, has a bloody better social life than I ever did.

On the flip side though, I’m at a point in my life where (as much a lot of people would say I should still be going out a drinking every Saturday night) I enjoy staying in! I enjoy settling down on a night and reading a book, or cooking with James, or even spending an hour in the attic bedroom doing yoga. Plus I quite enjoy having savings and money left at the end of the month (even if it is only a tenner)!

Don’t get me wrong I enjoy going out for dinner, girly drinks and after-work cocktails, but I can think of nothing worse than being in a sweaty nightclub at 2am fending off armpits in my face on the dancefloor…

Here are my top reasons why going out is the new staying in!


What do you talk about most with your friends? The things you went out and did or the show you stayed home and watched? My money, 9 time out of 10 is on the show. If you haven’t binge-watched “Friends”, “Stranger Things” or “Peaky Blinders” then I really don’t know what we have to talk about.

A bit of peace and quiet

You don’t have to scream over club music you (a) don’t understand and (b) don’t enjoy. Hanging out at home means that you and your significant other and friends can have actual conversations with background music you like, at whatever volume you want.


This may seem like a strange one as I’m 100% a people person but I have to admit, I enjoy not running into people I can’t stand, not having forced conversations with people I don’t know, not getting hit on by some mansplaining, no drunk girl at the bar spilling her drink all over you. Yeah…I think I’ll stay in thanks!


Now I’m on a proper healthy eating phase at the moment and trying to blend that into my normal everyday routine but on a cheat day, there is nothing better than donning my jammies and tucking into a takeaway with a movie on.


A taxi or an Uber will cost you probably more than you realise, especially if you grab one in both directions, (live out in the countryside like I do) and you better hope it’s not raining or a bank holiday (we see you, putting your prices up). Taking your own car is a nightmare all its own. Is there parking? It’s probably not free. Then, either alcohol is off limits so why go out at all, or you indulge and have to sleep on your friend’s uncomfy poof in their living room.

What to wear

The single biggest bain of my life! To wear a dress, skirt, or rock the jeans and a nice top. It’s a frickin’ nightmare! If you know me (or know James as he moans about this a lot), I can NEVER decide what to wear! That mixed with the seasons…ugh. If it’s winter you have to take a coat which can ruin your outfit, and in summer your makeup runs if it’s too warm. Give me my joggers and a hoody any day!

The cost

Did you know that what a restaurant pays for a bottle of wine, is what you pay for a glass??? Or that the price of the bottle is usually at least three times what it should be? At home, I can pop open a bottle of my favourite £6.00 pinot grigio and get cracking on. And as an added bonus, there’s never a line for the toilet at home 😉

Don’t get me wrong, staying in isn’t for everyone. I have friends who still love going out and having a good time, but I equally can have a good time in the comfort of my own home. I don’t really think you can put an age on when you start to stay in more, I think it just happens. It’s such a personal thing and totally dependent on the time you’re at in your life.

Do you stay in more than you go out? Let me know in the comments! 🙂



  1. March 27, 2018 / 6:26 pm

    I absolutely agree with the ‘people’ part. I live in Essex and work in London, so by the time I have spent the week battling crowds on the commute as well as tourists (I work in Covent Garden, nightmare), I just want to shut away the world in my peaceful little home. Plus also, my bed is at home, sooooooooo….

    • March 28, 2018 / 8:15 am

      Aww god I don’t envy you at all! My sister works and lives in London and I know she’s the same haha. Yes hun…..bed it at home and is the best place to be!

  2. March 27, 2018 / 6:34 pm

    I 100% prefer staying in than going out! Even if I just have a couple of G&T’s in front of the tv! I much prefer staying in my comfy clothes now rather than getting dolled up to go out. I’m only 22 so I get worried that I’m unsociable but night clubs make me feel so anxious now!

    • March 28, 2018 / 8:18 am

      Aww don’t worry just because you’re 22! At your age I was the same, I always preferred to have drinks at home than out in a nightclub. Maybe ease yourself back in if you’re worried and go to a small cocktail bar with friends x

  3. March 27, 2018 / 9:02 pm

    100% this! Aside from all the reasons you gave, my pets are another deciding factor on whether my husband and I should go out or stay in. Many times we’ve started the day saying we were going to go to a bar only to end up on the couch with our cats and dog on top of us!

    • March 28, 2018 / 8:19 am

      Haha this is so relatable! We’re the same, we have two cats and love curling up with a glass of wine with them both curled up with us!

  4. March 28, 2018 / 2:44 am

    I definitely stay in more than I go out these days. My wife and I just bought a new house so that has a lot to do with it. I’ve always been more of a homebody anyway!

    • March 28, 2018 / 8:19 am

      Like us then! You find you never have a spare moment to go out anyway haha

  5. March 29, 2018 / 2:07 am

    Netflix, my husband, a few fave blogs and a couple podcasts keep me indoors for dayyyyys. And I’m not complaining!

    • March 29, 2018 / 8:29 am

      Haha totally with you on that one girl! 🙂

  6. March 30, 2018 / 7:02 pm

    I agree! My social life is literally an hour away from where I live. So I have to plan it, unless it’s for work

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